Not So Super

You need a very strong support system if you're a single mom.  If you're the type who thinks asking help would make people realize you're not Supergirl, then you're in for a rough ride.  I mean let's admit it,  asking for help can sometimes be daunting.  On a personal stand point,  I'm used to doing things on my own.  There's little room for error because I do it my way and if things screw up,  I have no one else to blame but myself.  I have learned to accept the fact that I am not an island and that there is nothing wrong with crying for help and accepting help.  When I started building my support system,  I realized being a single mom shouldn't be hard and lonely.  I also got to see the true kindness and and genuine intentions of people around me. So the next time you're in a tight squeeze, call for help.  You don't know how many people are willing to extend a hand.

Picture Picture

One thing I wish I did more when I was still married was to be in a lot of family pictures.  Almost every school year my kids are required to paste their family pictures in their notebooks.  I think we only have 2 family pictures which I recycled up until they were in the 2nd grade.  What poses a bigger challenge to me right now is that I have no existing photo of my youngest son's father.  I wish I had taken more pictures.  But a year has passed and we're preparing for the next school year.  So I guess things aren't that bad.  A picture could just be a picture but if things would have happened all over again,  I would have take more of them.

Is There Life After

Off course there is life after being a single mom.  I've been a single mom for almost 9 years and I can't imagine living my life any other way.  It's challenging and out of the ordinary, but who would want to live an ordinary predicatable life?  Not me.  So rather than wallow in sorrow and sulk in one corner (besides I think 9 years is a long time to mourn) I might as well write and celebrate my singleness and the endless possibilities that comes along with it.